It’s been a couple of days after the referendum. I am a German girl, living in London and couldn’t help but wonder what this post Brexit Britain does mean. Here are 12 questions for you guys to think about Brexit, Remain, Leave, Nigel Farage and the whole chaos.
Did you know that..
… not even the Leave party had a plan what to do in case Brexit would happen and that Article 50 hasn’t been tested yet?
…. the promises made by the leave party weren’t actually real promises? I’m just saying NHS.
… nobody really wants to be responsible and is willing to lead this country any more?
… even Nigel Farage who was the main promoter of the Leave campaign has “quit” after Brexit? Do you know why? Because he wants his life back!
… potentially new Prime Minister Theresa May campaigned for Remain?
… Nigel Farage is paid in EUR and has boost his earnings after the Pound has crashed?
… the Scottish government might have the power to veto Article 50?
…. Northern Ireland has run out of application forms for Irish passports?
… 1.22m Britons are living abroad?
…. more than 400 european football player are supporting and playing for British clubs?
… many non-british citizens feel no longer welcome? How do you think shall British/non-british couples deal with it?
… Cameron and Johnson have gone to the same school?
Can you imagine what will come next? If you do, please keep me updated.
We all know the “cinderella” stories of college dropouts who became billionaires and super successful entrepreneurs – yes, might have happened. But I don’t buy too much into these stories. I believe former education is important, I believe learning is important and I believe learning doesn’t stop after school. Ideally it will never stop. There is this saying – formal education will make you a living, self education will make you a fortune.
We spend roughly 8-10 years at school, some of us spend 3 years at University to get an undergrad degree, further 1-2 years to get a Master’s and some even a couple of more years to do a PhD.
By the time we enter the workplace we have to completely restart and start learning again. This time the stuff we really need for the workplace. Whatever we learnt in school or University will only get us that far. We will be compared with people who have worked in the job, the industry, the company longer and got therefore more on-the-job experience.
I am wondering isn’t it finally time to revolutionise, to disrupt formal education? Rather learning how to interpret a poem, how to tell people in english and french what’s in my pencil case or what someone’s pet is named shouldn’t our formal education help us better
how to set goals and how to achieve them
how to believe in ourselves
how to be grateful
how to be mindful
how to push our boundaries
how to create a brand
how to deal with money and how to make a tax refund
to learn cross-cultural competence
to embrace change, curiosity and challenges
why self education is essential and we must never stop learning
I purchased this pic a couple of months ago in the unofficial Banksy shop in London, Portobello Road Market (if you haven’t been there, go go go and pay a visit to the store). Since then, it simply belongs in my office as a daily reminder.
Whenever I visit a social media page or talk to people Mondays seem to be the most hated days of the week and so many of us can’t wait to have Friday afternoon. Posts like ‘Monday should be optional’ or ‘Oh no, tomorrow is Monday’ are all over. So, why is that? Why are we so unsatisfied with our jobs and our lives? Why are there so many Monday complainers? Obviously this seems to be a definite #firstworldproblem although we have all the opportunities to simply take action and change the things we don’t like rather than accepting them.
Well, for me this pic continuously reminds me on how blessed I am. Maybe we can start to change our thinking and see the upcoming Monday more like this:
M aybe this day is not
O ne of your favourites, but
N ever forget that every
D ay we wake up is an
A mazing gift and it’s up to
Y ou to make it count (unknown)
and start counting or blessings. It’s your life – if you don’t like it, change it! You are not just the manager of your life but as well the creator. Btw we should also give a thought to all the people currently working this weekend, especially this Sunday (which is a total common thing in London for so many of us).
Happy Monday everybody and please, let me know how you keep yourself motivated.
Thanks everybody for your great and positive feedback to my latest blog post You are so lucky to live in London. Here are some reasons why I think it’s great to live abroad or travel as much as you can.
You get to know yourself very well.
You’ll stretch your mind because you continuously have to get out of your comfort zone
You’ll experience a lot of challenges. This is tough. But when you achieve to manage those you will feel soooooo, soooooo good
You’ll find pleasure on little things that you wouldn’t have thought to matter
You’ll see, eat, experience continuously new things and everyday life can become pretty exciting
You’ll miss home and learn to be grateful
You’ll figure out who are the friends that love you and are there for you (of course, vice versa) no matter the distance
You can receive parcels from home and exchange parcels, which is a great thing to do
You’ll meet new people
You’ll realise that a lot of people do have exactly the same experiences as you and therefore new friendships can sometimes build on a more intense basis – similarities connect
You’ll feel home on more places than just ‘home’
Heimat becomes something special – you will become sentimental and sometimes homesick but to head ‘home’ to see your loved gets you excited as a child on christmas
You’ll relax – you’ll have the chance to step back from expectations, cultural norms and figure out what you truly want
Therefore you will become more independent and value more your own decision-making skills
You can restart in a certain way – no one knows you anyway so you don’t have to deal with expectations or stereotypes
You’ll have a lot tourist moments in the city / country you live in because you absorb things differently. When I lived in Germany I actually haven’t traveled too much within the country or did a lot of sightseeing within the cities I lived in, because I always felt I could do it later. But living abroad – especially if it’s for a limited time only, will create a certain sense of urgency to do so
Your language skills will progress incredibly – simply because you have no other choice
Distances will no longer matter that much
You’ll become proud of your cultural ID while also …
… growing into another culture. The world becomes your home.
You’ll become more aware of cultural differences and learn to appreciate them
You’ll learn so much by having friends from all over the world
You’ll realise when talking to tourists how much you have learned – i.e. London transportation and the tube map and a lot of other things
You can do whatever you want (of course, just the legal stuff) and many people wouldn’t even care as it’s more anonymous
You’ll learn how to ask for help …
… and while doing so get more confident in not having the perfect language skills
Especially when you relocate or travel with a limited amount of luggage you’ll declutter and simplify your life.
You’ll learn to focus more on collection of moments rather than clutter and stuff
You’ll anyways find loads of cute stuff you want to take with you
You’ll realise that things you are good at can be totally challenging because you don’t understand a word (i.e. for me an aerobics class) – and you’ll be so proud of yourself when you manage to participate anyways
You’ll be surprised how people from different countries think about your home country and you’ll create great memories. I gonna share my favourite example with you. A friend of mine from Taiwan was totally surprised when I had a salat because she believed that Germans just eat sausages and meat.
You’ll have conversations about things you would never think you could have a serious conversation about and you’ll totally enjoy it. And let’s be honest it’s great to get to know everything about other cultures when it’s shared from locals
What else do you think makes the adventure ‘living abroad’ so worthy? Let me know – either in the comments or drop me a message.
today’s post is going to be a bit critical. So, if you are not in the mood for that please skip this article, stop reading here and switch over to Buzzfeed to watch some cute kitty videos. Otherwise, please feel free to read my post of living abroad and the meaning of LUCK in this case. Many of you probably know that I live in London since 1.5 years. I pretty often hear ‘you are so lucky’.
Google defines luck as the ‘success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one’s one actions’ and being lucky as ‘having, bringing, or resulting from good luck’.
Well, I do not want to deny that I’m a lucky gal however, does living abroad really has a lot do to with luck? Or is it more a decision you decide to make? An action you take? Can’t the most of us simply decide to relocate to another country themselves? Fact is, the reason why I first started thinking of relocating to London was because I met a fabulous man who already lived in London when we first met. Well, things gotten more serious and after more than a year we felt an urgency to live in the same country. So, yes, I am lucky as it seems that I found my Mr. Right, I am lucky because I could experience the city on probation before finally relocating, I am lucky because I did not have to start a new life in a new country totally alone. On the other side – there were lots of moments beforehand where no one would have considered myself as lucky. We invested a whole bunch of money every months to make this relationship work, to pay flight tickets etc. Some of my friends asked me ‘How can you have a relationship with a man living in another country?’ ‘Why are you doing this?’ ‘You can’t know whether this will work out’ ‘You are going to quit your safe job to relocate and restart?’. At the beginning no one really thought I’d be that lucky – except I got some flower sent to my office. So, why do we judge people’s state of luck? Why do we assume? Why do we impose our beliefs on others rather than support our each other?
I guess one of the main reasons this happens is that most people do not want to take actions as it’s quite inconvenient. The status-quo is so much better known. It’s tough to push your own boundaries and it’s scary to move abroad. But I believe it’s worth it. I believe the fear of failure, the fear of whatsoever hinders us way to often. And I can totally get that. I think everyone has certain fears in parts of his / her life and if you do not wanna relocate than travelling is a great alternative to get to know different cultures, to open up a bit and experience new things. While keeping everything else the way it is. However, let me warn you: travel can change your views, beliefs and yourself.
Another reason why I kicked off this ‘living abroad series’ is that a lot of people seem to believe that living abroad implies everyday being more fabulous than a unicorn farting rainbows, that all your everyday worries no longer exist. Where does this believe comes from? People living abroad do have everyday worries – a lot of them. I would admit we might have even a couple of more of them as everyday routines are getting shaken up, we have to communicate in another language and probably no clue where the heck we find any information about stuff we would easily know in our home country.
To just clear up things a bit I will go in the next posts deeper in what it means to live abroad, the perks and little struggles you suddenly have to face, the moments you feels lost and the moments you feel more alive then ever before.
I am more than happy to do a Q&A about the whole topic, so please feel free to drop me your questions. Lots of love, Steph xx
I decided to start a new series about ‘Living abroad’ and my experiences since my relocation to London 1.5 years ago. Please feel free to drop me any questions you might be interested in to be answered.
Today’s kick-off post is about London’s beauty and I’m going to share some pictures with you I made. The last ones from St. Paul’s were made recently (yesterday + today) and have shown me why I love this city so much: it let me become touristy every once in a while 🙂
You can find a couple of lovely pubs right by the river – stunning, beautiful and so relaxing. Give it a try next summer.
The Wildflower Cafe in Notting Hill is one of my favourite spots for breakfast and coffee – especially on a lazy Sunday or right before a Portobello Road Market stroll on a Saturday.
This picture sums up London perfectly for me – you see St. Paul’s Cathedral in the back, the classical double-decker red bus in the middle and two black Cabs in the front.
Do you have any lovely pictures to share? Would love to see them – you can also tag me on Facebook or Instagram.
P.S. Yes, Tower Bridge and some other classics are missing but I’m going to make some more posts about this topic 🙂 So, stay tuned.
today we are getting a bit serious. And I think it’s important that we do not shut up at this topic or let fear stop us spreading the word.
I guess most of you know that I’m German and my hometown is close to Cologne. This year on New Year’s Eve celebrations at the Cologne main station, as well as in Stuttgart and Hamburg (two other German cities) extreme attacks on females have happened. I’m shocked! Large groups (it’s reported between 500 to 1.000) of drunken, aggressive men have forced women to running the gauntlet, while they were pressed, sexually harassed and robbed. One girl was reportedly even raped.
We can’t end up with no longer feeling safe at home. Germany is a pretty safe country. We educate our children to respect women and we attach importance to gender equality.
Germany is a western, liberal country who respects diversity and individual differences. This is how I was raised and I believe my mindset is pretty liberal and open. The happened events on New Years Eve go beyond my expectations and make me angry! Women shouldn’t feel scared because of their gender. No matter whether they are on their way home alone late at night, wearing a super short skirt or whatever. It’s NOT the women’s job to ensure men behave. It’s the men who need to behave. There is absolutely no excuse. The only exception when women need to pay attention is when raising men to treat women as equal or better as queens. I can’t and I won’t tolerate to live anyhow in fear or think twice about celebrating New Year’s Eve, Cologne carnival or ANY other occasion.
I believe it’s up to us, every one of us, to defend our values, our way of living and our tolerance. This post does discriminate unethical behaviour and I seriously don’t care what your race, nationality, or what so ever is. Treat women with respect. Everywhere, always! Treat everyone with respect. I seriously ask myself in what kind of world are we living?
These events are happening around the corner, these are not so-called ‘third-world problems’. They are first-world problems and there shouldn’t be any tolerance for respect less, fucked up behaviour.
Some time ago I published a post ‘What is Culture’ on the blog. Today I wanna present you some characteristics of culture. Hostede has defended that ‘culture’ in general is only to use to describe and differentiate countries form each other – however it is not used to describe and differentiate individuals.
Does this mean that individuals can’t have a culture? No, it just means that each individual is unique and the word culture is only used to compare a group of individuals.