BWM 45/100 – it’s a lonely journey!

BWM 44/100 - Build with me SalesTrainerIn
BWM 45/100 – Build with me SalesTrainerIn

When you are starting off, building your own company it will be a lonely path you go. I have heard this a thousand times before I started and I must  admit: it’s true!

There is no more 9 to 5 …

You will suffer weekends in the pub or having fun with friends shopping, drinking coffee, strolling through the park … to work. To get your shit together, plan out things you need to do and get it done. Those weekends will probably be essentially for a while. It’s the time you need to invest to get everything sorted and yourself and the company in the starting position. It’s not always fun but ideally when you are at this point you know why you are doing it.

This is what you want, right?

And especially when you still work full-time all these over-hours and weekends you spend working can be actually fun. I know. It sounds quite weird but it’s your dream, right? You have the goal to leave the corporate world on one point and start on your own, right? You create the life you love, right? You do it because it’s your choice and you take full responsibility, right?

Don’t expect understanding

So this whole thing should mean that you are cool with that. I mean probably not for the rest of your life but for a certain time. The thing that might be challenging for you will be managing expectations. I mean, managing the expectations other have. Your friends, your spouse, your family they will expect you to spend quality time with them. There is nothing wrong with that. And I absolutely encourage you to do so. You can do it as “quality” time. Maybe a couple of hours less than you used to do but you can. Stop playing Candy crush or watching Netflix or any other of those time wasters will help you balance out quality time with loved ones and working.

But you will have to have a conversation with a couple of your closed ones that you life and your priorities have changed and are constantly changing. When you are on the entrepreneurial journey you are no longer living the normal life. You are no longer fulfilling standards set by society. Be clear on your priorities and your own expectations on yourself. Your loved ones will understand and they will want you to be successful. But don’t expect their lives to change. Get prepared and ready to walk the paths alone or with likeminded people on the same journey. You can! 🙂 remember, if it would be easy – everyone wold be doing it.

And when your loved ones want to understand what you are doing – tell them! Do not exclude them and don’t make it a “that’s so special kind of thing”. You don’t have to become a dickhead only because you have started your own company! No need for attitude!

My husband and me for example “check in” on a regular basis. We sit together over a coffee or breakfast and talk about the current process of my business. He knows exactly what’s going on and I have learnt to ask for his help. I mean of course not always. This is not the point. It’s your business, therefore you have to put in the work and no one else. But to pick a brain and to double check your assumptions it’s a great way to include your loved ones. We also schedule our quality time around our working schedule. Yes, this means to get a tiny bit more organised and plan but it’s not that much of a big deal. It’s only a question of priorities!

Become your own superhero :)
Become your own superhero 🙂

 

 

BWM 44/100 – About the necessity of networking ..

BWM 44/100 - Build with me SalesTrainerIn - valuing time
BWM 44/100 – Build with me SalesTrainerIn

“The necessity of networking” sounds pretty serious… I know… and I truly believe networking IS needed to be taken serious. Absolutely serious!

This is a lesson I hard to learn. I mean, I always knew that networking is important. But I didn’t know that it’s actually that essential. When you are in sales and recruiting as I have been for roughly 10 years networks are the source for your referrals and recommendation. But when you build a company networking is one of the number one tasks to do.

Networking in Germany

I always had the feeling that in Germany networking was essential especially for the very high hierarchy levels. You know I’m talking about these cliche weekends and off-sites where managing directors, C-level and board members close the biggest deals while playing golf. I mean obviously this is not the real world. I mean. This is part of the real world but only half of it. Also in Germany there are many, many opportunities to network in professional environments like organised clubs (Rotaract, Lions, Rotary etc. etc.). But how many of us do really do this? I used to be in networking organisations since I was in school. On a regular basis. Actually on a regular on-off basis… it simply didn’t have this much of a relevance. It was no priority.

Networking in the UK

Since I moved to the UK and especially since I started my company I learnt to understand that networking is one of the most, if not the single most important thing to do when you are in business. And when you want to succeed. I find myself going to networking events at 7 am in the morning. And guess what I am not the only one. For many people this is a priority appointment during office hours.  I also network a lot with likeminded people via Facebook groups or other professional networking groups like LinkedIn. I have received already so many incredible inputs. My thinking was challenged. I can pick a brain at any given time. I can deliver value to other people. I can be of help. It’s incredible. The results I achieved by simply talking and interacting with people are incredibly amazing.

Connected world

We are living a connected world. You can simply reach out to every one you want. It’s as simple as this. Only drop a message. How cool is that please?

Seriously I am totally bought into the whole networking hype and I think it should be an essential topic in school “how to network properly and why”.

How do you network?

BWM 35/100 – is all the struggle worth it?

BWM 35/100 - Build with me SalesTrainerIn
BWM 35/100 – Build with me SalesTrainerIn

A while ago I met an old friend I studied with back in 2006. We kicked off our careers at the same bank and had equal opportunities. The main difference is that I have left the bank after six years and she stayed. Along with her some other colleagues have stayed with the bank and celebrate now their 10th anniversary.

So I have a direct comparison of what title and salary I would be on right now.

But I left.

Was it worth it?

When I left the bank to join a startup company many people thought I would have lost my mind. Maybe I did. Do I regret it? Not at all.

Financially I might have gone a huge step back. Especially with now having  founded a startup company there is no such benefits as paid holidays, paid insurance, expensive incentives and bonuses etc.

But I guess it’s not all about a financial aspect. Journeys like mine will always loose when the benchmark is prestige or money.

Most startups fail and will never be successful. So, my decisions to get into business on my own was also risky – in every aspect.

Why did I do it?

I did it anyways and would do it over and over again as I used my 20-ies to gain experiences. To try out different industries, to figure out what I enjoy doing and also what I definitely hate doing.

I went back to University and I did this in a different country. Two things I wanted to do forever and would have regret if I wouldn’t have done them.

For me the whole thing isn’t too frustrating anyways as I had never the aspiration to have a quick win. I am in it to win it. I am in it for the long run.

I truly believe legacy over currency.

All this blogging stuff I definitely don’t do to become rich. Or to become famous. This would actually freak me out if I would because I sometime don’t even know whether anyone is reading this. If you do, please give me a hint so I know I am not alone.

Legacy over currency

Of course I want to make money – preferably a lot. But I believe you have to put the work into it. And I want to do this by delivering great customer experiences, great products and great service.

Therefore I guess I might no longer be comparable to my colleagues from earlier days and that’s fine. I would make any decision over and over again. And to answer the question: Yes, I truly believe it is worth it. I am creating the life I want. It sometimes sucks, it can be lonely but so does employee life. Je ne regret de rien.

BWM 23/100 – Multi-passionate and beauty & co.

BWM 23/100 – Multi-passionate Entrepreneur
BWM 23/100 – Multi-passionate Entrepreneurs

Not sure if you have heard already one of the terms Multi-passionate, Multipotentialite or Scanner Personality.

I hadn’t until a couple of months ago. And it was a huge relief and eye-opener that there is actually a whole lot of other people being the same like me.

Multi-passionate or Scanner? What the heck is that?

Multi-passionate and all the other words named above do mean the same thing. It’s literally a description for people who have many or multi passions. People who don’t have only one calling and want to dedicate their life to it. People who love to do things within totally different areas. Areas that have actually NOTHING to do with each other. And I mean nothing.

Loving Business, Blogging and Beauty! (The 3 B’s!)

To give the whole abstract wording kind of stuff a bit meaning I will give you a bit more detail about what I love. I absolutely love Business! I’ve been in business over 10 years. I worked the most of this time in Banking  then in Consulting and Recruiting. I absolutely love it. I got a degree in Business Administration and Banking and a MSc in Global Leadership. And I mean I am currently documenting my journey of becoming an entrepreneur – that’s pretty much a lot business to deal with. So, I guess this point is kind of ticket off.

I also love to blog – who would have guessed this!? When you read this you are probably aware of this fact. I started blogging because I wanted to document my learning journey – this is a nerd fact but I love learning new things. And to be creative.

What many of you probably don’t know is that I have started blogging roughly 1.5 years ago with a beauty account! Yes. Because I am also a woman and I love lipstick!

What does this mean for MyNutShare?
9 most loved pics
9 most loved pics

For MyNutShare this means I want to integrate these parts. And as it’s my blog I feel I can do whatever I want with it 😉 Just kidding. The blog MyNutShare will mainly stay business related. However I thought it might be nice to get a small touch of feminisms to this page. I am a female founder and I truly believe that makeup has an amazing power on how we feel. It’s not about how other people see us. I mean this! And I don’t want any of these ridiculous “you are pretty enough, you dont need any makeup” discussions here! It’s about how the person who puts the makeup on wants to feel and or be seen. Sometimes we girls simply enjoys putting on makeup. It’s not about you guys! Not at all!

Therefore beauty_sowhat will get a little corner on the page where I will share a little bit of makeup love.

 

BWM 21/100 – Constantly learning and my nerdy self

BWM – Learning – Day 20
BWM – Learning – Day 21

On this journey I am learning more than ever! It’s kind of cool and my nerdy self loves it. But it’s not always fun tho because when you are responsible for building a business you have no choice what to learn. You simply have to figure stuff out.

Learning about Social Media – the fun bits

Since I started this journey a year ago with my blog I levelled up my social media skills a lot. I started with a private Facebook page, a LinkedIn and a Xing profile and lots of no clue. Oh, I also had a not used Twitter and Instagram account.

In the meanwhile I run 4 Instagram pages, 2 Facebook “business” pages, 4 Twitter Accounts and also try to keep my other profiles up to date. Plus I write regular Blog posts, which I now also try to SEO optimise. Yes, I actually had no clue how the hack to do this until a couple of months. (SEO – search engine optimisation). I even have run my first paid ads.

Sounds like nothing special? For me it was. I never really bothered to much with Social Media and now got pretty addicted.

These kind of stuff are definitely the fun bits of being an one woman show.

Figuring everything out – also the not so cool bits

The bigger part of creating a business is of course not social media and stuff but to learn about taxes, registering a company, writing a business plan etc. This is another part of the journey that requires a lot of learning on the job and along the way.

I believe the only way to do it is to read a lot, stay informed and not to overthink stuff. In some cases like taxes these are necessities and needs to be done. So it’s best to just get into the action part asap.

Some other tasks like writing a business plan can actually be a lot fun. When you do it for yourself and for no one else, you can create an awesome roadmap and start getting concrete on where your journey shall lead you. Sometimes, especially when you write the plan for an investor pr a bank you will have to put it into a certain layout. But in most cases it’s just an amazing way to think things through, structure your thoughts and know where you are going.

 

BWM 16/100 – 10x and other books

BWM – Build with me SalesTrainerIn and help me becoming a 10x Entrepreneur – Day 16
BWM – Build with me SalesTrainerIn and help me becoming a 10x Entrepreneur – Day 16

The title of today’s post is “10x and other books” because I want to talk about books. Books are an absolute essential tool on everybody’s journey – especially on the entrepreneurial one.

I think I have read more books or listened to Audiobooks in the last 2 years than at any other given time. I’m not talking about crime, thriller or other “novels” but rather I mean non-fiction books. Sales books, books about creating wealth. Books about building a business. About efficiency and productivity. About personality and motivation. The list is long… A couple of fiction books as well – when I needed a time out. But mainly non-fiction books.

A couple of you might think this is boring shit – then this is the right time to stop reading this post.

Why I believe books are an essential tool for an entrepreneur

Because you can find every information you need to know! In a super structured way. To every topic. Without searching for info and waisting too much time researching topics. Sure, sometimes you have to do your research and it’s then the right thing to do. But there are literally books for every topic. Some don’t even go out of style or out of date. Some stuff is still relevant from 100 years ago.

Hate reading? Take an Audiobook

Another reason is that you pretty often don’t even have to read it yourself. You can listen to Audiobooks – someone is read out to you. How amazing is this please? You can listen to the books when you commute, do  the laundry, use the crosstrainer or cook.

Still to lazy? Listen to a summary

Some books you done even have to read as a whole as there are amazing summaries out there with some key points. I even have a couple of them on my blog here. Like the one from Brian Tracy “Eat the frog”. Summaries like this are amazing when you just need a fresh up or when you want to get an idea whether the book is “right” for you.

Some books are worth reading tho

A couple of books you still should read. Absolutely read. One of them is “The 10x Rule” by Grant Cardone! I am currently listening to this book for the second time as it is an amazing motivational kick. It challenges your thinking about goal setting, middle class and competition. And action! Massive action! 10x action!

I have published a summary of the book earlier this year (you can check the summary out here). But I would absolutely recommend this book to everyone who has a dream and wants to get shit done. Who wants to get real. Who wants to be a big player.

Find people who inspire you and get inspired regularly, then take action!

Another inspirational leader on my journey so far is Gary Vaynerchuk! I have read / listened to all his books – currently finishing the “Thank you Economy”. And he is the man for everyone who doesn’t mind cursing. Who wants something real. Who wants to get inspired by real hustle and swag. I would recommend you his YouTube Videos or Ted Talks. I would recommend you the USC 2015 Keynote speak. Here is the link.

Build with me – Day 14 as a female founder and full-time entrepreneur

BWM – Build with me SalesTrainerIn and help me becoming an Entrepreneur – Day 14
BWM – Build with me SalesTrainerIn and help me becoming an Entrepreneur – Day 14

Being a founder is super exciting. Being able to create your own reality is super fun. Being in charge for your own salary etc. can be tensing. Being a one-man show means a LOT to do. These are just a couple of changes I am currently going through and thoughts I have.

Another questions I ask myself all the time is “Is it OK to take a day off, at the beginning?”. With a day off I mean not working the weekends, not working on Sundays. There are various, different opinions about this topic out there.

Massive action – hustle non stop

Some say as a new entrepreneur you have to set super high goals and smash the shit out of them. Yeah, I can get that. However, I believe this whole “massive action and we are all just working for the next 10 years to then retire” kind of thing is very very big on Instagram. Is this the real world? Is this even something one should want to aspire? I’m not sure. Where is the fun?

Smash it and recharge! Not your baby!

Some other camps say “yes, smash the shit out of your goals but don’t forget your real life”. LIVE! And I guess I am totally on this side. Of course, everyone who has the imagination of becoming ones one boss because they want to work less will probably get disappointed. This is not how it works I guess. You want to work less? Stay or get an office job with option for remote working and become more productive. I guess, this is the easiest way to work less. When you are alone there is a whole lot of work to do – you literally have to do everything. Of course, you can outsource but you still have to do the outsourcing bit and brief virtual assistants etc. on what to do.

Project Management – work it, Girl

This is something that is pretty challenging. Structuring the whole work load. It’s like a massive project that needs to be set up, managed and accomplished.  It’s great to have the opportunity to work this. It is what literally kicks me out of bed in the morning – although I am absolutely not a morning person.

Some advice, please?? 🙂

How do build your business? Have have been built your business? Any tipps? Would love to share some best practice and learn from experienced founders.

Thanks,

Stephanie