BWM 39/100 – Building doors, becoming lucky and unf***king oneself

BWM 39/100 - Build with me SalesTrainerIn
BWM 39/100 – Build with me SalesTrainerIn

“When opportunity doesn’t knock build a door” (unknown). Since I started my entrepreneurial journey this sentence is somehow a daily mirror of what is happening and how many doors are opening.

I feel like I have thrown myself out there so many doors have opened and opportunities have knocked.

Building doors

I think the most important as well as the most scariest step is to really stop hiding and throwing yourself out there. Loosing the fear of being seen, noticed and maybe criticised.

Since I started my journey I had the chance to meet and network with a couple of pretty amazing people. I get supported in ways I would have never ever thought being possible. Things have just happened. I can’t explain why but it feels like “the harder I work the luckier I get” kind of thing is true.

Opening the doors

Another aspect I believe is to actually open the doors one builds. With that I mean to have an open, growth mindset. The willingness to constantly challenge one’s thinking. To invest and give without knowing the return. There won’t always be returns. I think you actually have to open a couple of doors to figure out what’s behind each.

Non of your business

As already mentioned above the probably scariest part is to throw yourself out there. And with doing so it’s pretty often linked to the fear of being criticised, judged or rejected. But to be honest – what other people think is non of your business. It’s simply not. It’s their business. Their problem. There is not always a point for you to care. Do your thing. Do you. We all are unique – and that’s the beauty of it.

Btw. most people will be anyway way to busy living their own life’s to even care at all.

"Unfuck yourself" - picture credit H&DF
“Unfuck yourself” – picture credit H&DF

Just a German Girl in London: ‘You are so lucky to live in London’ #livingabroad

Hello everybody,

today’s post is going to be a bit critical. So, if you are not in the mood for that please skip this article, stop reading here and switch over to Buzzfeed to watch some cute kitty videos. Otherwise, please feel free to read my post of living abroad and the meaning of LUCK in this case. Many of you probably know that I live in London since 1.5 years. I pretty often hear ‘you are so lucky’.

Google defines luck as the ‘success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one’s one actions’ and being lucky as ‘having, bringing, or resulting from good luck’.

Well, I do not want to deny that I’m a lucky gal however, does living abroad really has a lot do to with luck? Or is it more a decision you decide to make? An action you take? Can’t the most of us simply decide to relocate to another country themselves? Fact is, the reason why I first started thinking of relocating to London was because I met a fabulous man who already lived in London when we first met. Well, things gotten more serious and after more than a year we felt an urgency to live in the same country. So, yes, I am lucky as it seems that I found my Mr. Right, I am lucky because I could experience the city on probation before finally relocating, I am lucky because I did not have to start a new life in a new country totally alone. On the other side – there were lots of moments beforehand where no one would have considered myself as lucky. We invested a whole bunch of money every months to make this relationship work, to pay flight tickets etc. Some of my friends asked me ‘How can you have a relationship with a man living in another country?’ ‘Why are you doing this?’ ‘You can’t know whether this will work out’ ‘You are going to quit your safe job to relocate and restart?’. At the beginning no one really thought I’d be that lucky – except I got some flower sent to my office. So, why do we judge people’s state of luck? Why do we assume? Why do we impose our beliefs on others  rather than support our each other?

I guess one of the main reasons this happens is that most people do not want to take actions as it’s quite inconvenient. The status-quo is so much better known. It’s tough to push your own boundaries and it’s scary to move abroad. But I believe it’s worth it. I believe the fear of failure, the fear of whatsoever hinders us way to often. And I can totally get that. I think everyone has certain fears in parts of his / her life and if you do not wanna relocate than travelling is a great alternative to get to know different cultures, to open up a bit and experience new things. While keeping everything else the way it is. However, let me warn you: travel can change your views, beliefs and yourself.

Source: Internet
Source: Internet

Another reason why I kicked off this ‘living abroad series’ is that a lot of people seem to believe that living abroad implies everyday being more fabulous than a unicorn farting rainbows, that all your everyday worries no longer exist. Where does this believe comes from? People living abroad do have everyday worries – a lot of them. I would admit we might have even a couple of more of them as everyday routines are getting shaken up, we have to communicate in another language and probably no clue where the heck we find any information about stuff we would easily know in our home country.

To just clear up things a bit I will go in the next posts deeper in what it means to live abroad, the perks and little struggles you suddenly have to face, the moments you feels lost and the moments you feel more alive then ever before.

I am more than happy to do a Q&A about the whole topic, so please feel free to drop me your questions. Lots of love, Steph xx